I don't understand some things

I know that I often expect other people to have the same set of values and expecations of themselves as I do of myself. Sometimes I just wonder about people and what they are thinking - particularly when it comes to music.

Take rehearsals for instance. I go to rehearsals not because I need to go - I go because its part of the requirement to be a good choral singer. If someone hired me to just come in at the last minute and sing - it would be a different experience - a job, if you will, instead of a joy. It irritates me beyond belief to have someone just post for a performance and sing as if they have every right beyond everyone else's to just waltz in and set up shop. I don't care how good you are. If someone isn't paying your butt to be in that seat because you are just so good there is no need to practice then, feel free. But when you arrogantly come in and just expect to sing - and yes, it is arrogance. It's disrespectful arrogance. It's saying tacitly that you feel you are better than everyone else that came to rehearsal on a night they didn't necessarily want to go to rehearsal. That suffered while other people learned the music. What it is saying about you is that you just don't have the character to do the right thing.

Obviously I'm passionate about this. I think that the whole of it is that I expect them to have the same standards that I do. Obviously they don't. Just as obviously there is nothing I can do about it. I just don't get how they can be aided and abetted in this endeavor by people who don't call them on their foolishness. If the standard is a standard for most - but not a standard for all - then some choristers really are more equal than others. . .. and that's just not right.